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Dating

Speed Dating in Hawaii

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Since moving to Honolulu in 2013, I’ve attended three HI Speed Dating events because I wanted to encourage a close friend to start dating again after being in a long-term relationship. Unlike other friends who offer insightful dating advice, I had nothing to offer as I’ve never experienced dating. Instead sending her a Greg Behrendt Kindle book, I googled “speed dating Honolulu” and submitted a PayPal payment. Two weeks later, we were at Bar 35 filled with anticipation.

Although I personally didn’t care about dating, I feared my impulsive decision would worsen my friend’s perspective on dating again. At the time, it seemed like a good idea to fill up on liquid courage in lieu of confidence. Alcohol is a mental Photoshop. Everything is suddenly ammmaaazzzzzing! Upon entering the patio area, the facilitator led us to our seats. The female speed daters sat at tables with numbered table tops as the male speed daters circulated. We each had seven minutes to get to know each date. By date number five, it became very obvious that drinking two glasses of sauvignon blanc on an empty stomach was not a good call. Continue reading “Speed Dating in Hawaii” →

Dating, Friendship

Life Hack: Love and Like your Company

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July 2015 has been a horrible month for me. I developed an ear drum infection and was prescribed a round of antibiotics which promised a season of “surprise diarrhea” for the next few months. While I generally appreciate fulfilled promises, this prescription pinky swear was something I would’ve been happy to dodge. I missed a week of work because I feared the inevitable awkwardness of destroying the office’s ONE uni-gender bathroom. In addition to the above side-effects, I’ve also had asthmatic flareups for the last three weeks and have been coughing every two minutes.

Although July has been a really shitty month, I’ve learned a lot about the important qualities of relationships from being sick. Surprise Diarrhea and incessant coughing has really affected my social life. I’ve had to cancel several plans and rearrange meetings (to places with abundant toilet options). When it comes to cancelling plans, I still feel the need to explain myself because we live in a world of flaky people. I value my integrity and I didn’t want anyone I care about to think they weren’t important. It was very comforting to feel safe as I shared my situation. Continue reading “Life Hack: Love and Like your Company” →